Keeley Rankin in HuffPost: Sex and Relationship Advice

The questions people are embarrassed to ask out loud are the ones I care about most. Since 2016, HuffPost reporters have brought a lot of them to me.

Here's every HuffPost piece I've been featured in, grouped by the question it answers. Find the one closest to yours, read it, then try the small step I've added beside it.

A note on the headlines: HuffPost often groups its experts under "sex therapists." I'm a sex and relationship coach, and my answers in these pieces come from that work.

"We don't want the same amount of sex. Now what?"

• What Sex Therapists Tell People Whose Partners Don't Want Sex (2017). Being out of sync is common and rarely anyone's fault; read this before you have the conversation.
• What Men With Lower Sex Drives Than Their Partners Want You To Know (2017). Lower desire isn't only a women's experience, and this piece gives men's side of it room.
• How To Take Your Marriage From Sexless To Steamy, In 7 Steps (2017). If touch has dropped off, don't try all seven at once; choose one step together this week.

"Why can't I get out of my head, or get to orgasm?"

• What Sex Therapists Tell People Who've Never Had An Orgasm (2022). If you've never had an orgasm, you are not broken; this is a kind, practical first read.
• The Thought Pattern That May Be Keeping You From Really Great Sex (2022). What you're thinking during sex matters as much as what you're doing; this one looks at research on mindset.
• Everything You Need To Know About Menstrubation (It's Sexier Than It Sounds) (2021). Masturbating on your period may make it more bearable; read this before you rule it out.

"Is what I learned about sex even true?"

• 8 Lies About Sex You Need To Stop Believing, According To Sex Therapists (2017). Sex ed left a lot out. Start here.
• 6 Things People Get Totally Wrong About Sex, According To Sex Therapists (2017). More myths worth dropping, especially if you're comparing yourself to an imagined "normal."
• 10 Sex Tips You Haven't Heard A Million Times Before (HuffPost Australia, 2019). Fresh ideas for when the usual advice has stopped helping.

"How do we talk about the hard stuff?"

• Here's 1 Sex Lesson Everyone Could Stand To Learn From "Love Is Blind" (2024). Birth control is a shared conversation, and a reality-TV couple gave us a useful example of how it can go.
• 6 Sex "Rules" For People In Relationships, From Sex Therapists (2017). A few agreements worth making out loud instead of assuming.
• The One Person It Always Pays To Have An Affair With (2017). Spoiler: it's your partner.

"What should I know before I try something new?"

• What's The Deal With Magnum Condoms? An XL-Sized Primer (2017). Condom fit matters for comfort and protection; here's the lowdown on larger sizes.
• Sex Toys That Just Might Be Better Than A Boyfriend (2016). A good place to start if you're shopping for your first toy, or your next one.
• Everything You Wanted To Know About Sex Therapy (But Were Too Afraid To Ask) (2017). Wondering whether you need a therapist, a coach, or neither? This explains what sex therapy involves.

Your next step

Pick one article that sounds like your situation. If you have a partner, send it to them with one question: "Which part of this sounds like us?" Then listen to the answer before you add your own.

I've also been featured in Oprah Daily, Elite Daily and PopCulture, and I talk about many of these topics at more length on podcasts. You'll find every podcast interview here.

Want more of this? Everything I teach clients about desire, pleasure and talking about sex is in The Sex Class, at your own pace.